Anna Paquin discusses her decision to come out as bisexual in a new interview with Zap2It. “I’m not someone who endlessly talks about her personal life for no reason, but obviously, as someone who identifies as bisexual, those are issues I really care about — and frankly, I don’t see why everyone doesn’t care about them,” says the True Blood star, who came out in a gay-rights PSA this spring. “So when I was asked to participate in that PSA, it was just an obvious, ‘Well, of course I will.’”
Jun 5
2010
11:10 AM ET
Anna Paquin talks coming out
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But it’s not really being ‘gay’ is it? Bi-sexual seems more like a straight person that wants to experiement a little.
Boy, you really have no idea what you’re talking about, do you? Bi-curious is what you’re describing. Anna Paquin, among others (including myself) all over this country, is bisexual, which indicates no particular preference for either gender. Bisexuals fall in love with the person, not the body parts. Don’t classify bisexuals as just ‘confused’ or ‘experimenting,’ because that’s ignorant and insulting.
Implying that non-bisexuals only love others for sex is equally insulting.
Whatever. ICK!!
Thanks, Randall. I agree with you.
Re-read Kevin’s comment, Randall – he’s suggesting that bisexuals don’t look at their sexuality in terms of male or female parts, but he’s not suggesting straight (or gay) individuals do – he’s not addressing them at all. He’s merely addressing the popular misconception that a lot of individuals like “` have
Randall and Jenn, you clearly did not read Kevin’s post well.
Zack 10, grow up.
Still, I think this is just another case of a free spirited actress that’s experiementing, like Anne Heche.
When are people going to realize that people can love who they want to love and be attracted to what they want to be attracted to without being hypocrites
No. That’s why it’s called ‘bisexual’. Duh.
Bisexuality is an “excuse” to cheat on whomever you are with, with someone of the opposite sex. “Oh, I’m bisexual, so as long as I have sex with someone who is not the same sex my partner is, then I’m not cheating, cuz I’m bisexual”.
CCB…What you are describing is called being unfaithful not bisexual. There are millions of stright people who cheat on their partner’s all the time. What is their excuse? You can be bisexual and be faithful to your partner. Biesexuals, like straights and gays come in all forms…faithful and unfaithful. What you said was a stereotyped and uneducated view point…especually in this day and age with all the resources at your finger tips to educate yourself on this subject. I suggest you read up on the difference between sexual preference and sexual behaviors…they are not the same. Start with the Kinsey Study done over 50 years ago and move on from there. It is worth your time, to open up both your mind and heart in regards to people who are different from yourself. It is time we all stopped judging others who are different from ourselves and not just in terms of sexuality but in all ways. For god’s sake,(quite literally) why don’t we just LIVE AND LET LIVE and mind our own business.
Randall, Jenn… that’s not what Kevin was implying. You absolutely took his statement the wrong way. My sentiments go out to Anna Paquin, Kevin and other bisexuals, they r often misunderstood and misrepresented.
No such thing as bisexual! She just needs to come out as gay and stop pretending she likes men too.
Nonsense. I know quite a few bisexuals, and every single one is and had remained a bisexual throughout their life. Then again, I know a happily married couple where the man is gay and the woman is straight, they have a good sex life, and three kids. I guess I’m just the kind of person that people are comfortable in confiding in, because I know all kinds of folks. ‘Normal’ people is pretty much a imaginary thing as far as I can tell.
How do you know there is no such thing as bisexual, Chris? And why would you know who Anna Paquin is sexually interested in, better than Anna Paquin herself?
There IS bisexuality! If you have had, on an at least somewhat regular basis, sex with members of both sexes, that IS being bisexual. I hate it when gay people try to label someone as confused or gay when they claim they are bisexual.
Nonsense. There is aboslutely a such thing as bisexual. In fact, many people (like me) are capable of being attracted to and having a romantic relationship with either males or females. It’s not some experimental phase and it’s not an excuse to cheat on someone (I would never, regardless of the gender of the person I am with).
This sort of comment is exactly the sort of ignorance that gay people are fighting. Preconceived notions based on nothing which uninformed people cling to desperately. Please do some research and inform yourself, don’t stay ignorant on this topic forever.
Well, I dont know wthat to say, I have met alot of people who is “bisexual”, snce I am gay myself, and I have always noticed there one side they feel more atractted to….
I think in the end they are gay actually. cos it’s like they are nost astisfied enough with women so they loom for guys bing guys to have sex.
SO I dont know what to think about people like that..I guess Anna is dating his costar, but maybe if she meets some hot chick would she dump him for her?
aAND TALKING ABOUT BEING IN LOVE, it’s other topic…it’s beyond a physical atraction.
ur gay… would u dump ur boyfriend (if u have one) if u meet a hotter guy? why do u immediately assume that she would leave her fiance for a woman she finds attractive? she must find him attractive as well cuz theyve been together for a while.
Im gay and I have a boyfriend but Im committed not blind. Ive been approached by men that I considered to be morephysically attractive than my boyfriend. I didnt cheat on my man just cuz the other guy is hotter. I made a choice to be with me and Im sticking to that choice. You made that comment as if that “hot-chick” situation only applies to bisexuals.
Thanks. You really nailed the point. Bisexuals are not sluts. Or at least they are just as slutty as straights or gays.
People who “claim” to be bisexual can’t be trusted. They are lying to themselves so what makes you think they won’t lie to you too. This chick just has a lousy fiancé whose not hitting it right. Every chick is a lesbian when the right man isn’t around.
PS: I am a bisexual lesbian, so trust me, I know what I’m talking about.
No, Chris, you’re a troll, but thanks for playing.
Does saying you’re bi really count as “coming out”?
Yes, since as you can see in this comment thread, there are so many misconceptions and stigmas surrounding bisexuality that it can be pretty frustrating to say, “Hey, I’m bisexual.”
Yes. I think it’s even harder to come out as bisexual–just look at these comments! There’s much more disbelief about bisexuality. If gays or lesbians come out, you generally don’t hear people doubt their sincerity. And bisexuality has so many flavors so to speak–there are those bi’s who only want others for sex, and those who want exclusively the same gender, and everyone in between.
I’m not sure I understand the point of coming out as being bisexual when she is engaged to be married to a man. Why can’t she just say she loves her soon-to-be husband? Why does she have to label it when the person she currently is in love with is a man? I guess I just view it as being disrespectful to her fiance, because it’s basically saying, “I may be engaged but I’m interested in people other than my fiance.”
Unless they have an open marriage, then by all means
.
You’re really missing the point. If she was straight and declared herself as straight while being engaged to Stephen Moyer does that mean she’s saying, “I may be engaged but I’m interested in people other than my fiance”.? It is important to speak up especially when there is still such blatant discrimination against queer people. She is engaged to a man because she is attracted to him and loves him. She’s not with a woman because she isn’t in love with one. Maybe she will be in future. At this point no one can say. I’m really happy for Anna and Stephen and I’m extremely proud that she came out and identified as bi when we face discrimination in differing forms from both sides of the sexual spectrum.
Trust me, I’m bi and I’ve had successful relationships with both genders. It doesn’t make me any different from a straight person or a gay person. We’re all human and everyone should have the same rights.
I LOVE YOU ANNA FOR DOING THIS!!
Isn’t queer a derogatory term? just wondering
@info. Not really. I don’t attach any negative connotations to it and identify myself as ‘queer’.
@info. It would only be derogatory term if someone said it with malice. A lot of people call the gay community the “queer” community, it’s just another way of saying the same thing.
So… you’re saying that straight people that are engaged do not find themselves attracted to other people? thats news to me.
Her admitting she’s bisexual is in no way shape or form disrespectul to her fiance. I would think that before she went announcing this to the world, she had already come out to her fiance. So if he doesnt find it disrespectul, then why should u?
Bisexuality and monogamy are not antonyms.
I guess I feel that labeling your sexuality in such a manner when you’re entering in (what I assume to be) a monogamous union is giving yourself an “out,” so to speak. I think I view that categorization of sexuality as something that is acted upon, not just fantasy. So when you are getting married to a man but saying that you are also attracted to women, I feel like it will give you a future excuse or opening to cheat in the future.
I don’t think I’m articulating my point the way I want to; I’m not trying to be offensive in any way. I applaud her for coming out.
@trixie. She’s bi. Meaning she is also attracted to men. So if in future she meets another man and finds herself attracted to him isn’t that an opening to cheat.
I really cannot understand your logic. Like Paco said, bisexuality and monogamy are not opposites.
I suppose my logic doesn’t make sense!!
you “applaud her for coming out” and yet you assume that it’s just means to an end for her, a way to excuse herself from monogamy once she’s married? being bisexual doesn’t predispose you to cheat; no sexual orientation is inexorably linked to non-monogamous behavior. to say that someone comes out as bisexual to give herself an out if she feels something for a woman later on in her marriage is bigoted. there’s no way around that. if she were only attracted to men, and later in her marriage she fell in love with another man, it wouldn’t be any more or less of an excuse than what you are proposing. also, assuming that just because she may feel an attraction to a woman that she would act on it is pretty offensive. she has just as much capability and duty to be faithful to her significant other as anyone of any other sexual orientation. i say this as someone who is straight, but not narrow. it isn’t fair to any human being to assume things about them given their sexual orientation, whatever it may be.
I didn’t say that a “straight” person was in any better position, or that they have less of a proclivity for cheating. Obviously I’m aware that people in female-male relationships cheat. My point is that if someone asked me who I was attracted to, I would say “My boyfriend,” not “men.” To me, it’s about loyalty to your partner, but about keeping your eye on the “playing field.”
What I think is narrow is the need to place a label on yourself based solely on the person you love.
“but about keeping”
I meant not, not but.
You are either straight or gay. Make up your mind.
false. there is no situation in life in which everything is black or white, which is what you’re suggesting. human beings are not magnets, we aren’t absolutely, without a doubt attracted to one side. i find your assumption that there can be no in between, ever, to be incredibly insensitive and offensive.
No use preaching to the ignorant trolls….
Hell yeah BABY!! U go girl, she is so hot, i would love to see her in a love scene with Natalie Portman and Scarlett Johanson
Anna did a very brave thing by coming out. Clearly bisexuality is something many people do not completely understand. She did her part by being open and honest and I commend her for it.
Anna, Miley Cyrus would like you to call her.
In my experience sexuality is based more on who you prefer to have emotional relationships with not who you have sex with. Having said that I also believe that bisexual is a term reserved for men who do not want to commit to the team and women who want attention.
Do you have any idea how ignorant you sound? Sexuality is much deeper than you people think it is. I say this as a bisexual female and also as a person who has known many other bisexuals. I do not claim to be bisexual because I want attention. In fact, the only people who know are the people close to me. I am bisexual because I am attracted to both men and women. Having said that, I am also in a monogamous relationship with a man. Although my partner is straight, he doesn’t judge me based on my sexuality, and doesn’t worry whether I prefer men or women, because obviously I prefer him. Also, your comment about men is ridiculous. Don’t want to commit to the team? What the hell does that mean? Men don’t enter relationships with both sexes because they don’t want to commit. Think before you speak please.
I’ve never been so compelled to post a reply to an article. I am saddened, disgusted, but not surprised, by some of the comments I’ve read. As someone who is bisexual, I have faced prejudice from all sides. I applaud Ms. Paquin for her coming out, ESPECIALLY because she’s engaged to a man. It’s a great reminder that bisexuality does end because someone ends up in a heterosexual relationship. It doesn’t mean that she will cheat on him, but it doesn’t negate her “membership” in the queer community, very commonly referred to as the lgBt community. So, thank you.
You’re not bisexual! You’re gay! Accept it already. Also it’s very offensive to call someone queer but I guess since you’re still in the closer you wouldn’t know that. Shame on you!
*closet
You clearly are not part of the queer community, otherwise you would know that the queer community frequently refers to itself as – wait for it! – the “queer community.”
There is nothing offensive about tangentialgnome’s comment. Your ignorance, on the other hand, is offensive to bisexuals.
doesn’t end*
Add me to the list of people who simply don’t care who she has sex with.
I’m tired hearing about homosexual this and homosexual that, Im bringing Straight back and ramming it down gay peoples throats since we need to accept everything about them they need to shut it and admit that there is something wrong with them.
Hey, dumbass, gay people get straight shoved down their throats EVERY DAMN DAY OF THEIR LIVES.
You can shove it down my throat anytime you like!
…and yet you apparently can’t stop yourself from reading articles about gay and bisexual people, and you can’t prevent yourself from taking the time to leave comments after reading these articles.
I assume that means you enjoy having gay stuff rammed down your throat.
well, the thing is his fiance must be really open minded…
cos I dont know how I would feel If I had a boyfriend and then he tells me he is atractted to a woman…
I guess I would prefer that than him being with a man.
Cos she is a woman.
but I don’t know. Bisexual people I have met are like confusing people to me, cos they dont know what they want. it’s weird. I have nothing against them, but I wouldnt get involved romantically with one of them.
and yes people u r right we are nmot talking if Anna or any other bi would be more promiscuous than a gay or straight person….
I guess maybe she’s being like ANGELINA JOLIE when 10 years ago she said she was BISEXUAL TOO. and now look at them, “married” to Pitt and with 6 children….
so go Anna enjoy ur sexuality in a responsible way! and VIVA TRUE BLOOD!
I assure you, Victor, we do know what we want. If you are in a relationship with somebody who is bisexual, you shouldn’t wonder which sex they prefer, because they would obviously prefer you. What we, as bisexuals, want is acceptance from both the straight and gay community. We are currently accepted by neither. I must say I am proud that Anna decided to come out as bisexual, as it is extremely difficult to do, just as difficult, maybe even a bit more, as coming out as gay.
Oh please, it’s not as hard to do as coming out as gay. It’s actually just a cowardly way to come out. One foot out the door is not coming out and it’s usually just a matter of time till they pick a team and stop lying to themselves and everyone else.